Earlier this year I stumbled into a very serendipitous series of news reports. And I spent a few minutes visiting a new web site. And I made a new friend.
More importantly I made a decision.
As a result, I have become my own 80/20 rule.
Vague enough? OK, here’s what happened.
The law of attraction
I believe in the “Law of Attraction”.
No, not the silly “if you just wish for it hard enough the universe will make it appear” bullsh*t from The Secret. No, this law of attraction:
That’s Newton’s law of universal gravitation, the real law of attraction.
The problem was that I was simply too attractive. 🙂
Serendipity
In roughly April of this year I ran into several health-related news articles. They were not related to one another, and the timing was completely serendipitous. They amounted to:
- moderately elevated blood pressure correlated to a higher incidence of Alzheimer’s
- moderately elevated blood sugar correlated to a higher incidence of Alzheimer’s
- moderately elevated weight correlated to a higher incidence of Alzheimer’s
And of course, when reading that list, my reaction was “check”, “not last I checked”, and “check and then some”. And of course my dad had Alzheimer’s, so throw in the genetic card as well.
Now, I don’t react to every news article that comes about. That’s not my style. You and I both know that in another six to twelve months there’ll be another article that says “never mind” about one or more of the correlations raised, not to mention the fact that correlation and causation are two different things entirely anyway.
However, it did get me to thinking. Weight and diet are a key component of each of those things, whether there’s a correlation to Alzheimer’s or not. Even if they were all three completely wrong, not being overweight is generally considered healthier than the alternative.
Also completely coincidental at this time, I met Steve Kamb of NerdFitness.com.
45 minutes on NerdFitness.com changed everything
Steve seemed like a pretty reasonable guy. Yes, he was fit, but unlike so many fitness experts he was also enjoying his life and basically a lot of fun to be around. It seems so many health gurus are all about a near military style regimen with respect to both food and exercise, Steve’s approach is much more accessible – and clearly it was working.
So I went to visit the site and poked around a bit.
My “way in” was an article describing an exercise plan called “A Walk to Mordor” – basically framing a series of activities around a mythical journey – which lead me to The Lord of the Rings Workout – a series of workouts structured in Middle Earth terms. Each was given a themed title relating to the exercise, and ranged from simple to no-way-in-hell (when you get to “Eowyn ‘I am no Man!’ makers”, you’ll see what I mean).
So, yeah, that was cute but not something that really appealed to me. I liked the overall approach though and kept looking through the site.
Somewhere in the backup material I found reference to something that basically said that it’s 80% about diet and 20% about exercise. It’s mentioned in more than one place, but the quote that hit closest to home for me was this:
” …’you can’t outrun your fork’. When trying to lose weight, feel healthy, and get in shape, 80% (not an exaggeration) of your success or failure will come from how well you eat …”
An 80/20 rule! Something that I could immediately grasp and get my head around, and something that instantly spoke to my intense dislike of most “exercise”. The 80% was where I needed to spend my energies and focus my efforts.
As I proceeded at NerdFitness.com I stumbled into concepts that, ultimately, changed how I would approach the issue from there on out:
- Calorie counting – a requirement, as far as NerdFitness was concerned. Count every calorie that you eat. Period.
- BMR – Base (or Basal) Metabolic Rate. Given your age, weight, height and sex, the number of calories that you burn each day doing essentially nothing.
- The fact that a pound of weight (fat) corresponds to roughly 3500 calories.
To someone like me that reduced losing weight to a fairly simple equation: eat fewer calories than required by your BMR adjusted for activity level by a set amount and you would lose weight at a predictable rate. Undershoot by 500 calories per day, for example, and you should lose roughly one pound a week – generally considered a “safe” rate of weight loss.
My philosophy
Now, there’s something I should probably mention at this point, and that’s my overall philosophy to weight loss and health in general. I’m not a fan of fads – be it dietary fads and exclusions, or exercise fads and trends. I’ve seen way too many come and go over the years to give much credence to any that are currently in favor. Instead I keep it really, really simple:
Eat less, move more.
Now, I had the move part down, more or less, at least from a cardio perspective. I’d been using our elliptical 45 minutes 4-5 days a week for some time. I wasn’t interested in increasing that amount, but I was pretty happy that it was a fairly consistent routine.
Eating less, however, was clearly where I’d dropped the ball.
What I’d learned at NerdFitness set me on a path. 80% of what I needed was in the part I wasn’t doing well on at all.
I simply needed to eat less.
I didn’t return to NerdFitness for at least two or three more months. I’d gotten everything I needed to get going in about 45 minutes.
MyFitnessPal
On April 23rd, 2014 I started tracking my weight and my calorie intake using an app on my phone, with a companion website, called MyFitnessPal.
My view was that I was “gamifying” my weight loss. Recording numbers, seeing progress, setting and reaching goals – those were all “quests”, if you will, and perhaps another concept I’d picked up from NerdFitness.
I used the tool to track only calories, not exercise (which it’s capable of), or ingredients like salt, protein, carbs and the like. I watched those when the information was available but ultimately I cared only for the calories.
And I recorded only my weight.
Ultimately it’s a bit of a geeky solution, but it had to be “fun”, kind of, for me. And for me, it worked.
I will tell you this: calorie counting is an education. It’s shocking, at times, to see just how many certain foods are carrying into our bodies. I can see why NerdFitness says it’s a must.
Goals & Gaming the Game
As I said, the equation is pretty simple:
BMR + activity – desired weight loss rate = calories per day
Doing the math it turned out that my daily goals were actually pretty reachable. I made sure, however, to treat each day on its own. I didn’t “borrow” or “bank” calories between days.
I did, however, stack the deck a little to increase my odds, and perhaps even my rate.
My math always assumed 1lb per week weight loss, however I did not factor in the exercise that I continued to do on the elliptical. I always chose sedentary when asked my lifestyle.
I also practiced under-shooting the calorie goal, where sensible. This allowed me to be a little less anal about accounting for every last calorie (do I really need to record that a plain M&M is 4cal?), and allowed me to make perhaps a little faster progress.
The result: on average I lost slightly better than 2lb per week, safely.
Eating differently, but not much differently
This was not “a diet”. This was a lifestyle change. And that change was centered squarely around three things: quantity, quantity and quantity.
I learned the value of smaller portions and doggy bags.
I continued to eat my favorite foods, just not as often, and not as much.
I was actually only occasionally truly hungry, and never ravenously so. Being uncomfortably hungry was a fear going into this, and to be honest it never really arose to any significant degree.
But in a sense I already knew that my over-eating was never really about true hunger anyway. It typically came about due to boredom, fatigue, stress and habit.
Tweaking it a little
One side effect of “simply” reducing calorie intake was that I started making different – and often better – choices.
I started by eating fewer carbs and favoring proteins instead. Bread and rice, for example, became rare where previously they were staples.
And as I approached my goal I began investigating how to make vegetables more palatable, with some success.
But it was important to me that I not deal in absolutes. I still have bread on occasion. I even factored in alcohol (those dreaded “empty calories”) from time to time – probably more often than bread. I still visit my favorite burger joint, and enjoyed deep-fried fish and chips just yesterday.
But ultimately when I limited my intake, I naturally began to make better decisions more often. By becoming more aware of what I was eating, more mindful of my choices, the decisions simply improved.
Bumps
This isn’t all to say that all went perfectly and that the only direction my weight went was down. There were definitely bumps in the weekly weigh-in.
A chili cook-off caught me by surprise. A dinner party had a somewhat negative impact on my progress.
And the aftermath of trying too hard – a “sprint to the finish” where I reduced my calorie intake to unhealthy levels – resulted in a small rebound.
All of these were experiences that allowed me to learn what matters.
What I ultimately learned was that I knew how to lose weight. I just needed to stick to my system to do so. And when bumps happen (as they will, throughout life) I know how to recover – because I’ve done it.
Results
So just what was it I did? Numbers…
At some point over the winter of 2013/14 I weighed in at 256 lbs. (For the geeks, that’s 2^8. I was a one byte overflow, no pun intended.)
My goals were simple: 220 by October, under 200 by Spring 2015.
On April 23, 2014, my first recorded entry in MyFitnessPal, I weighed in at 250 lbs.
I crossed 220 on July 9th.
September 21, 2014 I was just under 200 lbs.
As I update this in early October I’m at 197.
That’s over a 20% loss. I’d become my own 80/20 rule.
And to top it all off, that’s a weight my wife has never seen. A weight that, if memory serves, I haven’t seen since high school.
Effects
I’m wearing clothing sizes that I never expected to see.
My pants are 34″ where in the past I’d worn 40″. My shirt is a comfortable medium, where in the past I’d typically chosen XXL. Naturally my inseam and desire for the “tall” shirts hasn’t changed.
My blood pressure is down. This has actually allowed me to expand my diet a little for the better, as salt is back on the menu (in reasonable doses, of course). Salt can make several healthy foods if not palatable, at least significantly less unpleasant. I’ve cut my BP meds in half, and at an upcoming physical I’ll investigate dropping it completely.
Now the real challenge begins
By some estimates, 80% of all people who lose weight gain it back. Yikes!
My goal is to treat this “80/20 role” differently than the others. This time I plan to be on the 20% side.
As I said earlier this was never “a diet”. It was, from day 1, a lifestyle change. It was a decision to become a person who simply eats less.
To accomplish that I expect I might play the calories counting “game” for a long time. I’m OK with that.
Cartman stole my line
I’ve always tended heavy. My mom was calling me “big boned” around 50 years ago, before South Park took the term mainstream.
My bones haven’t changed this summer, but you can see a little more of them, and the meat that hangs off of them has gotten just a little leaner.
PS: About the hair
If you’ve seen me any time in the last 3 or so years you’ll note I had a pony tail. Key word there is “had”.
I’d been getting tired of it, so I promised myself a haircut upon reaching my weight goal.
That actually doesn’t do it justice – there was quite the pile of hair on the floor as well:
With this as the result:
Update: Thanksgiving week 2014
It’s been two months since I hit my target weight, and I’ve stayed under the entire time.
I purposely scheduled a physical after reaching that weight, wanting to make sure that everything is as it should be. It is.
And more.
- Blood sugar is down.
- Blood pressure is down. (I’m off my BP meds.)
- Sleep apnea has halted. (I’m no longer using my CPAP machine.)
- HDL (the “good” cholesterol), typically low for me, is the highest it’s been in years.
And I’m eating more vegetables than I ever imagined. 🙂
More updates
- April 2015: I waited a year to take this screen shot….
- August 2016: This was never the goal….
Congratulations! Looking good. I like the new haircut too. This could have been my story minus the Nerd Fitness site (good find btw). My wife and I tried South Beach (one day of no carbs and the resulting ketosis had us at each others’ throats plus it was a lot of prep work), but I found that MyFitnessPal makes it so easy to lose weight if you are disciplined enough to put everything in. No fad diets, no calculating points, most premade stuff already there. I even did what you did and put “sedentary” and knew I had extra from exercise so I didn’t have to be perfect counting. From my anecdotal experience from family members who were and were not successful with it, I think that’s the key to success for using that site – if you try to be perfect counting it becomes tedious.
Good luck keeping the weight off. I’ve been able to because as you’ve said, it creates a lifestyle change. I don’t use MyFitnessPal to count anymore unless I start creeping up a little like at Christmas, but there’s always a little nagging voice in my head saying “Do you want to be heavy again? Stop eating now.”
Leo,
Awesome blog… On Ash Wednesday this year I started the nearly identical journey… Sans the ponytail… MFP is a great free tool..!
I lost 30 lbs…
You said it all…
PS – one typo noticed – FYI…
“So, yeah, that was cute but not something the really appealed to me.”
Dear, dear Leo, this is something that I specialise in and am good at. So glad that it worked for you but… the most important thing is…’listen to your body’!
Body needs what it needs to do it’s best i.e. balanced diet, but will also tell you what it wants. If you want to lose weight, just eat more veg i.e. tip the balance in favour of nutrients instead of empty calories. However, beware because sometimes empty calories are just what it wants and needs. Oh and please avoid as many herbicides, pesticides, hormones, e-numbers, etc.
bye-the-way my grandmother also had alzheimers and personally I believe that it is due to accumulated toxic overload especially fat soluble chemicals and even more, never, never use aluminium utensils, pots or pans especially!
There have been quite a number of occasions in my last 10 years in this country (Portugal) where I have had friends with elderly relatives with alzheimers and lo and behold, their kitchens were full of aluminium every time. Tell your wife, that goes for under arm deoderant as well. Try fresh mint, well it works for me at least.
Love this, thanks for sharing. Bravo for you.
-RG
Congrats Leo, you look great! Exercise sucks, but sports can be fun if you find a new one and get into it. Maybe there is a new sport in your future? hint hint http://www.fuzzyyellowballs.com
Congratulations, Leo!! You look great! (And I like your hair, too!) Way to go sticking with the exercise the way you have! I recently read a book I think you would find intriguing called “Why We Get Fat and What to Do About It” by Gary Taubes. The science he explains is eye-opening yet simple. (Hint: insulin is not always our friend.) Being a medical professional myself, I valued what he had to say. Something just “clicked” in my brain and what he said actually caused me to change my eating behavior immediately. No counting calories and the pounds are coming off. YAY!
Congrats Leo! Thanks for sharing your inspiring story! I love the practical and logical approach, no hype.
Congrats Leo! I love how you just DECIDED and then went for it without overthinking it. You looked healthy this week and perhaps the best I’ve ever seen or known you to look. 🙂
Congrats Leo! I’m thrilled for you and find your story very inspiring!!!
Congratulations on the weight loss, Leo!
I went from 286 to 205 about eight years ago and have never felt better in my life. And, just as you, my wife had never seen me at this weight before. Plus, it is also been since high school that I was this weight.
Your 80/20 rule is 100% correct. It is all about the eating.
My challenge, and it will be your challenge now, will be to keep the weight where you want it. Statistics show that if you can keep it there for five years, it will stay there. The pain associated with letting it go back will be too great.
Feel free to email me if you have any questions or issues you wish to discuss. I am always hopeful that my experiences will help others with theirs.
Massage and the sun bath will not only activate your body
but also reduce your weight, but care should be taken that the
massage over abdomen should be done anti-clock wise and massage over the lower portion of the body should be upward and massage over
the upper portion of the body should be downward. Avoid packaged or
processed foods that come in a box, can, bag or carton and
prepare your own meals from fresh ingredients.
Beverages that contain drink, sodas, coffee, sweetened drinks allow it to become difficult
to lose weight.
I really appreciate your Ask Leo! site, and followed you over to your blog. I am basically computer illiterate…….sort of like a chimp with a loaded handgun. That’s why in the three spaces to contact you, I wrote “HUH? by website; honestly, I really don’t know what the question means……..do I have a website? Did I drift in from another website? Call me vacant.
The reason for this contact is to possibly help you with what you eat. My background will help you to understand my perspective on life and living, and is not intended as a sob story. (Poor me.) The woman that gave birth to me was 13 years old. When the 13 year old started “showing” she was pregnant, her mother kicked her out of the house.
My parents……the folks that adopted me, were in a beer joint, when the 13 year old came in, trying to bum money to feed me…….age, five months. I was covered in sores, had rickets, double pneumonia and malnutrition. They asked the young teen if it would be okay to let them take me to a doctor, and she said yes. The doctor said I’d never live to age two.
The point being, from the very beginning, my body was in poor shape. I was a runt kid, and had to learn early to fight better than boys that were much bigger than I was, always jumping on me. Fast forward through a bred in proclivity to be alcoholic, and hypoglycemic…….an “adrenalin junkie”……some time in the military, a two year marriage that was hell on Earth, then I found the lady that would become my life mate.
Both of us had “hill billy” parents, and we both wanted to live in the country, so we got a small place outside of Norfolk, Virginia. We raised our own cattle, hogs, and chickens to butcher, and a half acre garden that supplied most of our vegetables.
WHAT YOU SHOULD BE AWARE OF: monosodium glutamate (MSG). I am 65 years old now……..I take aspirin. That’s all. Health is fine. I am convinced that the multifaceted problem that eludes recognition from people wanting to live healthy, is the plethora of food additives in prepared food. MANY food additives, but the one my wife figured out is the worst…….MSG.
Literally, MSG turns me into a Jekyll/Hyde personality……..mean and aggressive. MSG makes my blood sugar levels yo-yo like a bungie jumper for two to three weeks, whenever I eat food that contains MSG, but does not list MSG as an ingredient. NASTY STUFF, MSG….at least for some people.
LEO, try this: buy yourself a glucometer to read your blood sugar levels. As you read the labels on the foods you eat, look for MSG, monosodium glutamate, or “natural flavoring”……..MSG is often hidden in that nebulous category on food labels. Often, there is zero indication of MSG in a product, when consumption proves there is.
Take note of how you feel, not just physically, but emotionally. (I stay pissed, if I consume MSG.) Check and record your blood sugar for a few days on your normal diet, then deliberately eat foods with MSG………or sprinkle ACCENT on your food……a “flavor enhancer”. Eat MSG foods for three or four days, and notice how you feel, and look at your blood sugar levels.
Some folks react badly to MSG………I do. About 30% of American Indians react badly as well. That “drunk gene” in many Indians seems to be what is affected by MSG consumption.
You may or may not have a reaction to MSG………but if you find yourself craving carbohydrates………..MSG is probably what stimulated that craving, as it does in me. Beads, cakes, candy………MSG sets off a yearning for “fast fuel” in me.
Closing, THANK YOU for helping folks like me understand the basics of computing better. I hope this “heads up” about MSG will help you as well. At the minimum, if you determine that MSG has no affect on you, you have eliminated one variable in eating properly.
One last observation. My adopted dad’s kin all lived to be nearly 100 years old. Farmers, they grew or raised everything they ate, and smoked their own meat. Daily breakfast of ham and eggs, swimming in fat. Real food, without chemical additives, is the key to good health, in my opinion.