On “Someday”

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Someday never comes.

This might be one of the most hackneyed quotes / thoughts / aphorisms the old share with the young.

The problem is, it’s true.

We often strive towards some unspecified goal before we allow ourselves to do what we really want instead. The goal is unspecified, or at best, lightly specified, and there’s no formal completion data or criteria.

  • When the kids are older.
  • When I’ve saved up some extra cash.
  • When I get that promotion.
  • When things aren’t so hectic.
  • When …

The thing those all share in common is they’re vague. More importantly, perhaps, they are almost always moving targets.

And of course if by some chance they arrive, or fade into irrelevance, they’re replaced by another vague criteria.

“When” never happens.

Someday never comes.

Sometimes that’s our way of avoiding something. Whatever the thing is that we say we want to do, we really don’t. Not really. And hanging it on “someday” is our way of deciding without deciding. Perhaps it’s how we avoid absolute statements to the other people in our life.

Perhaps it’s how we avoid admitting the truth to ourselves.

Perhaps it’s how we avoid the work required to make someday happen. Maybe we don’t want to put in the extra work required to save extra cash. Perhaps we don’t want to, or don’t know how, to make life less hectic.

Perhaps the urgency of the now overrides the promise of someday.

I won’t say “do the thing”. It might not be the right thing to do.

What I am saying is to be honest with yourself and those around you. If you want to do something, then decide to do it, and make someday happen. If you don’t want to, then decide that too.

Clarity in your life is incredibly valuable and important.

Don’t wait for “someday” to make that happen either.