We say no too often.
Particularly after a lifetime of experience makes us cynical, it’s simply too easy to say no to new things and new experiences. Even familiar activities result in a “no” because they take us out of our increasingly sedentary comfort zone.
I’d rather stay home. I’d rather not drive. I’d rather watch TV. I’d rather be passive.
Say yes more often. Not always, just … more.
Do the thing. Take on a novel experience. Go out with friends. Visit that restaurant. Take on a hobby. Go for a drive. Do a favor.
Have a life.
I’m not saying you should say yes to everything that comes along. I’m also not saying you should say yes to every commitment request that might land at your feet. That path leads to overwhelm.
There are definitely times to say “no,” and there are definitely people who need to say no more often.
That’s not what I’m talking about.
Think of life as a continuous game of improvisation. Default to “Yes, and…”
It’ll make for a richer life full of more experiences.
Yes isn’t always possible. Sometimes no is the right answer.
But rather than fall back into a rut of saying no, whenever you’re about to, stop … and at least consider saying yes.
Life happens after “Yes, and…”