I struggle with homophobes.
I have a difficult time understanding their problem. Two people love each other and they happen to have the same genitalia.
Most will point to a holy book of some sort supposedly banning the practice. There are two serious problems with this:
- Said holy books are often wildly inconsistent on the topic. They also include passages implying it as completely normal, acceptable, or at least unremarkable.
- The hypocrisy is so strong. People will cherry-pick passages in those books they care to “follow”. At the same time, they’ll completely ignore other passages not fitting their agenda.
As soon as someone references a holy book (any “holy” book) as a justification against non-traditional relationships, I can only tune out.
Some will say “it’s not natural”. What makes it “not natural”? There are assorted animals that practice various forms of same-sex relationships. How is that not natural?
The only argument even close to being worthy of consideration is “survival of the species”.
Human biology currently dictates it takes a biological male interacting with a biological female to produce offspring. Problems with that argument include:
- We’re producing enough offspring. Perhaps in the past it could have been an issue because of limited population and high infant mortality, but that’s just no longer the case.
- There are plenty of children being abandoned or orphaned, and non-traditional families have been just as effective at raising children as traditional.
As soon as procreation is brought up as justification, I can only shake my head sadly and walk away.
Two people love each other. How can that be evil? And yet some claim it is the basest of evils.
To the homophobes I say: How is it hurting you? Why are you so threatened by it?
I don’t get it.
The lifestyle doesn’t threaten anyone. They’re not forcing anyone to adopt their lifestyle (as homophobes would, given their way). They’re just people in a relationship that happen to have the “wrong” collection of genitalia in someone else’s eyes.
To be clear, I’ve grossly oversimplified human sexuality. This issue is much larger than just genitalia, including sexual attraction, expression, identity, and more.
Again, how is any of this hurting you? Why do you care so much?
Life is not black or white. Life is full of nuance and shades of gray. Human relationships are no exception.
How about this:
Let’s solve the rest of the world’s problems first. War. Famine. Inequality. Poverty. Abuse. Subjugation. Etc.
Above all, let’s cure hatred.
Once those are solved, then maybe let’s have a discussion about whether there’s a “wrong” way for two people to love each other.
Until then, love is love. I say celebrate it in all its wonderful forms.