Fault finding is so easy.
I’ll even say society encourages it.
Mass media looks for any opportunity to call out a politician, celebrity, or other person of note for their mistakes and hypocrisy. It’s become almost a game. It’s definitely a key component of every political campaign.
The target rarely cares. Even more rarely do they admit, change, or apologize.
It’s not infrequent that they never hear the criticism at all. How often do we see “Wow! Person A just put a slap-down on Person B!!” on social media? Guess what: Person B probably never saw it. No one was slapped down in the slightest.
So why do we do it? Why do we relish pointing out the failures in others?
It makes us feel better about ourselves. It makes us feel better than them. Even though Person B never saw it, Person A is probably feeling pretty good about themselves and their supposed slap-down.
Finding fault in others stems from our own lack of confidence and self-esteem.
It’s sad, because it doesn’t work. It might make us feel superior for a few seconds, but it has no long-term impact, other than to make us and those around us cynical.
If someone shows a failing of some sort, and it has no impact on you, ignore it. Bypass it. It’s not yours to judge. It’s certainly not your place to call it out.
Leave it be. There’s nothing you can do to make it better.
Even if it does impact you somehow, think twice before calling it out. It’s still unlikely to be your place to do so. And it almost certainly won’t change anything.
Anything you might do is more likely to only make things worse.
Focus on what you control: yourself and your response.
4 thoughts on “On Finding Fault in Others”
Right on, Leo!
The rise of so-called social media (so-called because I believe it has become the opposite of “social” and that anti-social comments and rants are what attract attention. Warhol was so prescient…
At just shy of 83, I find your comments, philosophy, and outlook continue to refresh and educate. Wish I had stumbled on to you sooner (was about 6-8 years ago that I found one of your tips as I recall and have been an acolyte ever since.).
Happy upcoming births=day!
When I had a middle school Girl Scout troop, one of the “mantras” I would encourage them to use was, “Be slow to take offense and quick to forgive”. I think it would serve all of us to use it!
When you point the finger of blame at someone you have three fimgers pointing back at yourself.
Brilliant advice and guidance. I wish for many people to read this, and for myself to continue to strive to implementing this.
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